I love the Bible and I love God. At the same time I believe that He is so much bigger than we want to see and make Him. The Bible is not a cook book with answers for each single problem you think you have. It is a love letter from God. Yes, it also contains rules - but not because He likes to boss us around, but because He loves us and wants to keep us from being harmed! This very love is the basis for everything. The rules don't stand alone - they are a means for love. Some try to make laws punishable by death out of these rules, hereby forgetting the purpose they have.
"He answered, “Haven’t you read what David did when he and his companions were hungry? He entered the house of God, and he and his companions ate the consecrated bread—which was not lawful for them to do, but only for the priests. Or haven’t you read in the Law that the priests on Sabbath duty in the temple desecrate the Sabbath and yet are innocent? I tell you that something greater than the temple is here. If you had known what these words mean, ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice,’ you would not have condemned the innocent. For the Son of Man is Lord of the Sabbath.”
Matthew 12:3-8 New International Version
The laws or rules are of no value out of themselves. They receive their value through the purpose they are here for. No, that does not mean we can or should forget about all of God's commands or interpret them according to our personal likes and dislikes. It does mean, however, that we must see them for what they are: a love letter from God.